tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2360936507322491939.post4687335443272636850..comments2023-07-29T11:29:13.093+01:00Comments on Lonicera's World, Images & Stories: Chubby Chops - a life in pictures. Part 4Lonicerahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13141723287143567146noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2360936507322491939.post-12880080110444205272009-07-19T18:12:01.680+01:002009-07-19T18:12:01.680+01:00There's more than one comment in here that sma...There's more than one comment in here that smacks of some degree of personal experience, and I salute you all.<br />Thank you Simone for your encouragement - I regret I'm a bit too jaded from past failures to cheer and punch the air because I've got below the 100 kg mark, but I am pleased about it, no doubt about that. <br />I've banned words such as "diet" and "target" from my vocabulary, but admit I can't help wondering whether the next 6 months will make me start to actually feel I'm getting there. Right now I feel less breathless, and my face is a bit better, but that's about it.<br />Thank you all so much.<br />CarolineLonicerahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13141723287143567146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2360936507322491939.post-17641943156493426972009-07-18T15:14:00.572+01:002009-07-18T15:14:00.572+01:00Yes, some kind of friends they were...."loose...Yes, some kind of friends they were...."loose cannon" indeed!<br /><br />I just wanted to say a big WELL DONE on your latest monthly weight loss.....congratulations :)<br /><br />Take care :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07435722126028910012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2360936507322491939.post-22339772896271568022009-07-18T06:38:41.767+01:002009-07-18T06:38:41.767+01:00I agree with Helen and have one more point to add-...I agree with Helen and have one more point to add---If your ex-husbands friends were so afraid of you in your newly divorced status you must have been some kind of attractive woman to keep them scared like that....hmmm seems to me your exhusband was not stating the truth but trying to keep you from realizing your own beauty (inside and out!!)<br /><br />TinaTinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16965135571189867376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2360936507322491939.post-4219530716456923162009-07-18T04:03:41.078+01:002009-07-18T04:03:41.078+01:00Caroline, that man is an abuser. You don't ha...Caroline, that man is an abuser. You don't have to be slapped or beaten, bruised or bloody to be an abused woman. He was the most insidious type of abuse. He tore your sense of self worth, which from your stories was quite fragile even then. Such a quite, subtle horrible abuse.<br /><br />It so difficult to get yourself built back up. I know.<br /><br />Hugs, Caroline.<br /><br />HelenReddirt Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08485995791439570214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2360936507322491939.post-72587384734029515702009-07-17T13:20:05.076+01:002009-07-17T13:20:05.076+01:00Wow - what terrific support! Where were you all i...Wow - what terrific support! Where were you all in 1984 when I needed you! Thank you so much. Actually, therein lies the problem - I didn't have friends of my own then, as the university ones had gone their various ways, childhood friends were back in Argentina and I got engaged before graduation, so all friends were mutual, and when we split up they told me they didn't want to take sides (understandable), and years later someone told me that at the time they feared that as a 'dropped' wife I was a loose cannon, and might be after their own husbands!! So if they didn't recognise I had SOME moral standards (not to mention an acute sense of dignity) then I was better off without them altogether, nuff said.<br />I didn't want to present him as an ogre, more as a typical product of his time - of a certain type. I'm not "trophy wife" material, I'm afraid.<br />This part 4 was the painful one - I'm half way through the next which isn't half as bad.<br />A collective hug to all of you.<br />CarolineLonicerahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13141723287143567146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2360936507322491939.post-78495429752217605182009-07-17T12:03:26.940+01:002009-07-17T12:03:26.940+01:00Well....I will speak ill of him...what a farking w...Well....I will speak ill of him...what a farking wanker!!!! I agree with Tina...he was definitely compensating for something lacking in his life by trying to find something wrong with you. <br />You looked beautiful and of "normal" weight in all of those photos to me. What a shame he could not see that. <br />I admire you so much for telling your story. It is very, very interesting and I too am looking forward to the next chapter.Nolahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06999422801245381422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2360936507322491939.post-21324712197757914062009-07-16T05:06:53.676+01:002009-07-16T05:06:53.676+01:00Good Lord Caroline!! I was cussing repeatedly at ...Good Lord Caroline!! I was cussing repeatedly at your ex-husband. No man has the right to abuse someone like that. I wonder what exactly the self-failings he was covering up that he had to call you out like that...Over here in the states I would say he must have had a very small penis he was compensating for. I know one should never speak ill of another woman's husband (even ex-husband) but his behavior has riled me up big time.<br /><br />TinaTinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16965135571189867376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2360936507322491939.post-53413606396501597962009-07-16T00:40:38.163+01:002009-07-16T00:40:38.163+01:00Bless you, Caroline. You have experienced the ult...Bless you, Caroline. You have experienced the ultimate abuse (verbal). As I read, I started to cry. The pictures of you are absolutely beautiful. But then, I always look at people's eyes and smiles. I have always lived with people telling me I have a beautiful face, and what I hear is, but your body is fat and ugly. You weighed as a young adult what I weighed in high school and although it is not altogether obese, it is overweight for our height. I feel like we are soul mates in our similarities. You give me strength to share my tale. God bless you, dear friend.DocSlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14858385264072943975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2360936507322491939.post-90083459869195070002009-07-15T18:13:17.183+01:002009-07-15T18:13:17.183+01:00Oh.My.Goodness. I am not even going to tell you wh...Oh.My.Goodness. I am not even going to tell you what I want to do to that man right now!!!!! Unbelievable that anyone - least of all your husband - could do that to you.<br /><br />Your story is fascinating Caroline - and can I tell you how beautiful you were....and still are...you must have enormous strength of character to have come through this.....and the years that followed......<br /><br />I have to tell you that in that photo with Karen Dotrice, you are WAY MORE ATTRACTIVE THAN HER!!!!<br /><br />Am really enjoying reading your story.....I am sure it is not easy to write.....but please don't keep us waiting too long for the next chapter....<br /><br />Best wishes as always,<br />SimoneAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07435722126028910012noreply@blogger.com